Small posts like “sit by the window at dawn it’ll make you happy” and “listen to your favorite music while you work on things, it’ll make the time pass” get so much hate and comments like “we’re not all neurotypical brenda!1!1!” because people almost WANT to be sad. Little things are really fucking important to help you heal.
Sometimes people just want to share something that helps them and it’s fucked up to shut them down. Mentally ill tumblr makes negativity and being upset popular and cool and shit. Like making jokes about how you constantly want to die is not going to help you and yes, I’m guilty of doing this.
Focus on things that make you feel better instead of trapping yourself in a cycle of negativity. It’s only going to make you feel worse.
An important message, I feel.
because people almost WANT to be sad.
One of the most helpful things that my very helpful therapist has told me is that depression WANTS to make you depressed and then keep you depressed. (I focus best with an adversary, so this may not be that helpful for you)
Too tired to do anything? That’s the depression dragging your energy away.
No food appeals? Depression grabbed your appetite and hid it, because depression is an asshole that wants you to suffer.
There’s no joy in anything? Again, that’s the depression being a fucker.
It’s really easy to fall into the trap of wanting to be miserable, acting like you want to be miserable, or just assuming you’re going to be miserable anyway and not trying. I’ve done and do all of them, and it’s really hard to stop–unless I remember that there’s this asshole inside my brain that grows stronger every time it convinces me to feed it.
Being too nice will always put you in drama and bullshit. Don’t allow people to abuse your kindness and infest you with indirect unnecessary drama.
Don’t give folks too much credit or invest more into them than what they are giving you just because you feel like they are tolerating you and you’re still overlooking shit you should’ve used as reasons to detach and cut them off. Its ok to be distant, distrustful, suspicious (aware), detached, mean and firm in order to survive. Just gotta balance it out.
This is why I’m less than stoked at all the posts about why we should dox the nazis who were in Charlottesville. By all means, make nazis’ lives a living hell—but you’d better be damn fucking sure you’ve got the right person first. And so far I’ve seen zero evidence that there’s any sort of care going into the crowdsourcing identification of the nazis.
I’ve got no problem with fucking over nazis—I’ve got about 50% less family than I should have as a direct result of them—but if you want to take part in this you do your fucking homework beforehand and quit reblogging every post that claims to have ID’d another nazi without doing your own research, too. Yes, every time. Yes, even the ones that seem super dupes obvious. Otherwise you are, quite literally, part of the fucking problem.
#i am all for nazis being exposed and facing consequences!!! hell yeah!!! #but social media isn’t really known for being trustworthy and checking facts and not accidentally hurting bystanders #so there’s that
remember: it’s okay to take a break, especially if you are a person of color, Jewish, LGBTQ+ or otherwise in imminent human danger from the ideologies on display in Charlottesville – but even if you are not – a really good thing and a thing i highly recommend in times of crisis is to get off the internet for a while. your brain thinks that only YOUR PERSONAL rapt, terrified attention will solve the problems that beset us as a world and a country, but god bless it, it is wrong. hopelessness and a sense of futility are reasonable reactions to these manifestations of systemic evil, but there ARE things you can do to fight white supremacy and american naziism: there are actionable items. “being on twitter” is, at best, a step towards these actionable items. it is not of itself a necessity, or even particularly helpful.
i don’t know what it’s like where you are, but it’s beautiful outside in DC today. go breathe in that good air, if you can. get strength from that good sunlight. think of yourself like a tree. make your roots strong.
Y’all are aware….that media can be progressive without being flawless right? Media is like people, because guess who fuckin makes it: people.
That doesn’t mean “oh worship this and sweep criticism under the rug!” but like….you can acknowledge progression in even problematic content.
Any media progression we’ve had in diversity has still excluded any number of other groups. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t a significant step made /that hadn’t been taken before./ it doesn’t mean it can’t be normalizing things that haven’t been normalized before that need to be.
And everyone is fully allowed to point out that importance. Just like humans, its not wholly black and white. We can watch, enjoy, or talk about what certain pieces of media have done to create more acceptance for certain groups, and we can criticize its shortcomings.
It doesn’t have to be “either boycott it or stan it.” like. That’s not how it works.
Consulting Witch 